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Time, and the lack of it.

Posted by: lubnaaa | January 19, 2009 |

I’ve learnt one of the downsides to travelling alone is that you have no protection against the occasional oddball who crosses your path.

There was a Legal Career Fair on Saturday and I decided to go. I planned on meeting a friend there so we could roam the fair together and exchange notes on the talks they were having. Unfortunately she had to bail at the last minute, so I hopped onto a train and went off alone.

It was during one of the talks when this really strange man of perhaps 50 came to sit next to me. There was an empty chair beside me, so he took it. He smiled and said hello, so I replied. Apparently, despite his peppery grey hair, he was a law student, which reminded me a bit of the Uncles we have back in UIA. So that was ok. The thing is, during the talk, he kept on fidgeting about and bumping into my shoulder, which made me feel very very uncomfortable.  I tried shifting sideways in my seat first, before trying to scoot my chair surreptitously away, but that was no good. No escape routes were in sight either. The worst part was he kept on looking over and smiling and smiling and smiling. You can usually distinguish a friendly smile and a creepy smile. His was unfortunately the latter. I gave him one back out of politeness, but I think the strain on my face was clear. I wanted to change seats, but it’s a small room with very few number of chairs, and he would’ve noticed. I didn’t want to be rude, but I wanted him to be absolutely motionless for at least the next half hour or so til the talk ended. The whole time I sat there, rigid, all I could think of was how stupid I was for telling him I came alone (he asked). I’ll know better next time, but personally, I think it’s always best to have a companion around. It’s a lot more fun, and you’ll always have a partner to help you dodge the occasional oddball.

(For what’s it’s worth, he was probably harmless. But it’s always better to be safe than sorry.)

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I’ve got to learn how to say No, or I’m going to suffer the effects of biting off more than I can chew. On top of my coursework and weekly submissions to worry about, my dad wants me to do some research on Palestine and war crimes for his upcoming event with Aman Palestin, JUST and MERCY. Normally I’d jump at the chance straight away, but where I was relatively free last week, I’m now suddenly swamped with work left and right. To make matters worse, I’ve spent this weekend doing some things outside of work, but as equally important, which means now all my uni assignments and submissions are all pushed up to tomorrow, which is incidentally the day for our Pandora Session (ie, client counseling). That reminds me, a discussion needs to be arranged to prepare our case, and possibly reschedule an appointment…

Or maybe I just really want my diary to be full.

Honestly though, I think I’ve taken on too much.

And time management isn’t going to save me here when there isn’t enough of it to manage.

I’m going to have to get a little creative in how I’m going to tackle this.

Wish me luck!

Enough said here.

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Man, if you ajak me, I would go Lubs! I knew there was a career fair but I had no idea it was on Saturday. I went to the Jobstreet fair instead. How was it?

Hehe, yeah, but it was the weekend and it looked like everyone had their own agendas. I tak nak ganggu. :)
It was quite good actually!
This is going to sound uber lame, but I hung around the talks rather than the fair itself, because I felt utterly lost. I went to the talks to help give me tips on what I want to do, but really Mar, I feel so behind everyone not knowing.

I’m hoping for some guidance insya Allah. I don’t want to do something that’s going to drain my life for the next few decades.

Am reading your entry on jobstreet right now. :)

(drat. i don’t know where i messed up but some of that got left out. and i can’t figure out how to delete my previous comment so please, will you do it for me…? here’s a repost! many apologies sweetie)

I’ve got to learn how to say No … ditto here on that.

During a trip to Pavillion, the week before I had to come back last summer, I actually went for a drink with a complete and total stranger. In retrospect, it was the most idiotic thing I could have ever done, and I blame the distress caused by looming thoughts of having to leave for Moscow at the end of that week as the reason for such unsound judgment. Reckless, impulsive and so so inappropriate of me.

The dude was working behind the counter in Puma, nice and friendly and all. I met him as I was filling up an entry form for some Guess How Much This Display is Worth? contest they had going on at the store (for the record I only entered it for fun and it was one of those ‘no purchase necessary’ contests. I didn’t even like the prize but I’m such a sucker for freebies).

I was alone, and he was helping me with hints as to what the closest estimation actually was and yeah so maybe he was flirting with me a little, who could tell.

Left the store, resumed my shopping, spent an hour or two of uninterrupted wandering, and next thing I knew I received a phone call from an unknown number. Turns out he’d lifted my contact details from the form (he actually apologized for having done so. And I reminded him that what he did was probably ILLEGAL!) but there he was, calling me to ask me for a drink.

I said No. Obviously. Then politely hung up. A while later just before lunch he rang me up again. And I don’t know what came over me maybe it was because I was tired and reeeally thirsty by then, so this time when he asked I said Yes (I know. I’m screaming in my head “WHAT THE HELL DO YOU THINK YOU WERE DOING???!!!” too).

He told me to meet up with him in front of Starbucks. So I waited, and when he showed up he told me there’s this place nearby, but outside the Pavillion building where the staff and workers always frequent because food and drinks are so much more cheaper there than the overpriced fare they offer inside. I was like sure, whatever, but we’re gonna have to make this quick I told him I wanted to go home after.

So he took me past several streets beyond, behind backways and tiny streetlanes and I was really kicking myself mentally for having agreed to this earlier WELL IT’S A LITTLE TOO LATE FOR THAT now huh. But we were still merrily making conversation like it wasn’t the most crazy thing to do, following him like that.

We arrived at this mamak stall and I grabbed a can of Dutch Lady Belgian Chocolate Latte, stuck a straw in it, and mumbled single response answers to all his questions throughout. Drank it so fast I could’ve choked on myself, and asked to be excused.

Apparently his story was that he saw my address on the form and recognized the area because he used to live there for a while, during his UiTM days. I guess he was telling the truth from all the references to my neighborhood, but it didn’t change the fact that I was still pretty insane since for whatever it’s worth he could have been a serial killer or stalker rapist of some sort. Plus I was by myself. PLUS I neglected to inform anyone beforehand of this impromptu little outing with my new ‘friend’, too.

Alhamdulillah nothing happened. The guy did seem a little bewildered when I took such haste to depart though.

So after I left I immediately called Amahl up and he was telling me off for doing something so stupid and sounding awfully upset on the line, asking me if I was okay. He told me I was absolutely out of my mind and please can I go back home already and to promise to never ever pull another stunt like that again and what could I do but agree completely with him on all counts.

Moral of this story: Don’t do what I did. Full stop.

Anyway that is a really long story there, sorry.

But hey you know what maybe you and I could go out sometime Lubna, and we’d be able to keep a lookout for each other.

Whaddaya say :) ?

Oh. My. God.

Maddie, excuse the pun but you are absolutely MAD. I can imagine Amahl going crazy over that spot of craziness (well no I can’t actually, but even just reading your story sends shivers down my back). What on earth-?

I’m just glad you’re safe, because going through side streets and alley ways with some random dude is just wayyy too risky. I’ve heard of living on the wild side, but hun, there are boundaries ok? Lol. Whatever it is, I hope you’re not that thirsty and tired again to say yes.

As for this fella, he’s lucky he’s harmless (as far as asking a stranger girl out for a drink by digging her phone no and home add from a private form goes), because if he tried anything nauzubillah he’ll be getting hell, and then some.

*shakes head

You know what Maddie? I think we should go out, so that I can keep a lookout for you. :P
So I say yes! :D

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