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When no means no

Posted by: lubnaaa | January 24, 2008 |

I was walking from the library towards the car park to head home this evening, when I heard a girl behind me say “I’m not looking for a boyfriend.” The first thing I did was roll my eyes. It sounds bad, but I was exhausted and I wasn’t in the mood to listen to some campus drama unfold so I quickened my steps.

It was only when the girl rushed past me that I realised she was being harrassed by some oily-haired slimy foreign guy who was practically chasing her. There weren’t many people around, and as she disappeared around the corner, Slimy followed in pursuit. Instinctively I walked faster. I didn’t want to get involved, but I was worried for the girl’s safety. Slimy had a friend with him who was trying to restrain him. Fat lot of good that did, he kept on sliding past. Must be all the slime. Eventually more people began to appear. Slimy’s friend took the opportunity to stall him, and to gesture to the girl to move faster. Once I saw the girl safely cross the road and join a group of girls, I changed back to my original direction. Slimy had given up.

When a girl says flat out that she isn’t interested, it doesn’t mean she’s playing hard to get, or that she’s playing mind games, or that she’s playing at all. Does she need to spell it out? She isn’t speaking in code. NO MEANS NO. Respect her decision and move on. It’s not going to work if you’re going to force a relationship on her. If you don’t have her trust, you’ve got nothing.

A relationship is more than just changing your Friendster status, more than just obsession, infatuation, physical attraction. If you’re in it for the image, for the temporary spurts of excitement you get from it, and nothing more than that, it won’t last.

Oh, and keep an eye out if you see the same thing happening around you. Dear sisters, if you spot a Slimy situation, either kick the fellow where it hurts most or use the best female weapon there is: the scream.

Enough said here.

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Bit by bit, very much lengthy comment, here we go again haha ; )

First of all, my eyes would have rolled out of the sockets if I happened to be the one who heard such line ie “I’m not looking for a boyfriend”. It’s so high skool yo. But then it was justified la once I read the whole thing. The saddest part is that this story and the likes of it have become too familiar for comfort dah la. Decent looking Malay girls being chased by the foreign dudes kat UIA tu.

The most disturbing thing of it all is that these slimes do eventually move on. It sure takes some time but it’s unbelievable how easy their change of affection (more like human target actually) can be from one digestibly cute girl to another. Obvious sgt la kn it’s not love. And even if it was, wow, some way to show it huh. Sorry if this sounds too ignorant but I have to agree with the outsiders I tell these kinda stories to (not randomly obviously but I prolly need a whole blog entry to explain THAT one heh ; ]). They all have the tendencies to say the foreign doods tu restricted sgt when it comes to interaction with the opposite sex in their homeland so once they come here mmg tunjok belang la kan. Somehow they have the idea that Malay girls are easy or something. And I think it’s not just the foreign guys la. The girls pun mcm promiscuous smcm je, no? I think some of our mates have christened these foreigners some derogatory names but I can’t really recall what exactly it is. But I have to say it suits them really well la. Captures the whole kemiangan really nicely actually hahaha.

Having said all that, I just realized something. Well, actually, I’ve realized this a whole long time ago but ni baru nak make an official statement of some sort *_* I have some pretty hawt mates rupa2nya. Obviously I won’t drop the real names but I think you would have already know some of OUR girls ada kena kacau dgn makhluk laknat ni gak kan. Aiya, I have to admit last time I kinda envied the whole attention thing but after awhile, when the fun runs out, you realized these doods mean serious business when they start chasing girls around campus. As you said, best thing against these *bleep* is a real kick to you know where. The scream is quite a nice effect to the whole drama heh. Nak sangat drama, we’ll give them drama kn.

And yes, gotta agree with the whole deal you said abt r’ship tu. It’s so much more than that. Have you happened to read this one apple tree chronology thing? It started from Elyna if I’m not mistaken.

Wokeyh, even tho you made it clear before that I could pretty much go on a comment rampant here, still an apology is in place for rambling so much = )

P/S:- Lubna sayang, why do I sense a very strong J.K Rowling-ish resemblance in this post? I’ve noticed it in some previous posts of yours before but it wasn’t this obvious la. Been reading up on our beloved Pottah boy or it’s just the whole uni theme eh? Either way, I definitely love this part the most “Fat lot of good that did, he kept on sliding past. Must be all the slime.” Haha, sgt2 Seamus Finnigan-ish when he’s describing Severus Snape ahahaha ; DD

Whoops dee whoop, before anyone brands me a stereotyping bleep, let me make it real clear that all of the things I said is obviously a generalization la. Some of these unities do end up with marriages and well, er, happy happily ever after to ‘em is in order? Heh #_#

EEEEEEEEeewwww…. Slimy makes me want to go take a shower.

enuf please..God!!
it works both ways sumtimes. but i really pity the girl. why don’t people just enjoy being a discreet observer. less the trouble, less the heart pains.

I’m sorry, can someone explain to me why the kick - which has every potential to destroy a man, both physically and emotionally while making him a shadow of a person for the rest of his days - is a less lethal weapon than the scream?

But yes ladies, I do agree with Lubna that you must use ‘the kick’ after of course, due warning.

This doesn’t apply to you though Lubna. I estimate that men would probably run AWAY from you after you’ve sliced them with your tongue and mind.

Not to mention you’ll probably pull a penalty kick on you know where.

Faz:
An equally long response. =)
When are you updating, beb? I read your blog, you know. When it’s updated. Annually. ;P

I know which girls you mean. *coughs coughs* I hate it when they think Malay girls are easy, but I hate it more when there are some who actually ARE easy. It makes the rest of us look bad. And yeah, I remember the apple analogy. :)
Reply to ps.
Really? The last time I read Harry Potter was about 5 months ago. I didn’t realise I was doing that. I must be reconnecting with my British roots. HA HA. And I like Seamus, though Lee Jordan would’ve been a better comparison. I think I have sports commentator blood running through me. :P
Of course we’re not stereotyping! Every tree has a bad apple in them. It’s cool, Faz. :D
Pai:
And that’s just reading about him. He was so…leery. When are you coming to visit Saz and I in UIA?

Widaad:
Because there are some observers who want to risk it, who want to take a chance. And when they go too far…bad news.

Khairie:
The scream is more convenient if the target’s too far to reach. You know, if you’re standing at a distance and the guy’s imposing figure intimidates you, screaming works better.

Thank you Khairie. I fool everyone with that impression, but it comes in handy. :) The penalty kick wouldn’t be too bad either. Haha.

What the…. You picked up from Najia ke ha with the remarks of my blog update (well, the lack of it la haha)? No worries babes, once I got everything sorted, I’ll make an announcement kat our beloved Fster’s Bulletin Board tu. I’ll send a personal msg kot to the very few readers I have LMAO *_*

And *coughs coughs*? Haha, too cute la you. And yes, the easy Malay girls thing is SO spot on. That’s why the slimes senang2 je label us all as easy. Beyond sickening ok. If the slimes can er, slice us back with their tongues and minds takpe gak. Most of them are all show, no substance material. Mmg asking for a freekick at the groin la kn. There, obv aku dh bengang sgt so I’m just gonna say it in the open and gettit outta the system.

Groin groin groin groin groin groin groin groin groin groin groin groin groin groin groin groin

(Nigella’s trademark orgasmic sound) Arkh. God, that felt so good ahahaha. Guess we just have to wait for the good apples from the boys’ tree to come along and slice us with their tongues and minds all the way to our hearts eh ROFL ; p

Reply to the reply of PS: It’s just the whole campus sitch la tu kot. And yes, Lee Jordan’s great for Quidditch commentary and all but I had the mental image of the Brit boy version of our very own Mak Joyah in the heat of gossiping. You know, Seamus is like the snarkier, less annoyingly emo update of Ron Wheezly. Hish, makes me wanna khatam all the 7 books in one seating la!! #_#

my God faz. is this ur way of submitting a blog entry? on other people’s blogs? PANJANG GILA COMMENT KO!
i truly pity the girl. she must have felt really scared but i salute her for saying out loud that she’s not interested! that’s what our girls shld do, tell them straight ur not bloody interested in them slimeys! diorg ni mmg x paham bahasa langsung. jgn la senyap and buat dunno je nanti the guy lagi suka. mmg nahas la kalo that freaky arab guy buat mcm tu kat aku. i lug around safety equipments and i’m not afraid to kick him. itu pun ada kwn yg stall dia nak jugak. kesiannya. i have to walk around UIA with a thug, dont-mess-with-me kind of look esp when there r loads of foreign guys. it’s just too bad la.

all that photography stuff just got too technical for me so i think i’m going to start fiddling with the features in the camera and tgk the end result. pening kepala reading all the technical terms. enough la alredi with the legal jargon

*SHRIEKING* HEIIIIIIII!!!!!!!! T(P)uan (Cik?) blog tak kaycoh ko nk bising2 apehal?! Kan aku dah belasah style mat rempit.

*Cools down* U jealous ke my bini? *Dies laughing* *Hidop balik* Fine2, aku gi check ur blog lak. Be prepared for another lengthy segment, ho. Hohoho = DD

Eh. Forgot this. Anything photography, pornography related should be posted at the previous entry yeh. Sesungguhnya comments aku yg panjang berjela ni posted at the right entries adanya. Sekian, (Alleycats’) TERIMA KASAAAYH *_*

Afiq: Nak ice cream tak?

gf: taknak lah..

Afiq: Ok.

gf: mana ice cream I?

Afiq: ?????

Sorry Afiq, I wish I could speak for all girls when I say we are ALL the very the straightforward.

But. There ARE times when it’s the guy’s job to just figure it out if it’s obvious. :p

Harrasment though, that’s another story altogether.

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