I was walking from the library towards the car park to head home this evening, when I heard a girl behind me say “I’m not looking for a boyfriend.” The first thing I did was roll my eyes. It sounds bad, but I was exhausted and I wasn’t in the mood to listen to some campus drama unfold so I quickened my steps.
It was only when the girl rushed past me that I realised she was being harrassed by some oily-haired slimy foreign guy who was practically chasing her. There weren’t many people around, and as she disappeared around the corner, Slimy followed in pursuit. Instinctively I walked faster. I didn’t want to get involved, but I was worried for the girl’s safety. Slimy had a friend with him who was trying to restrain him. Fat lot of good that did, he kept on sliding past. Must be all the slime. Eventually more people began to appear. Slimy’s friend took the opportunity to stall him, and to gesture to the girl to move faster. Once I saw the girl safely cross the road and join a group of girls, I changed back to my original direction. Slimy had given up.
When a girl says flat out that she isn’t interested, it doesn’t mean she’s playing hard to get, or that she’s playing mind games, or that she’s playing at all. Does she need to spell it out? She isn’t speaking in code. NO MEANS NO. Respect her decision and move on. It’s not going to work if you’re going to force a relationship on her. If you don’t have her trust, you’ve got nothing.
A relationship is more than just changing your Friendster status, more than just obsession, infatuation, physical attraction. If you’re in it for the image, for the temporary spurts of excitement you get from it, and nothing more than that, it won’t last.
Oh, and keep an eye out if you see the same thing happening around you. Dear sisters, if you spot a Slimy situation, either kick the fellow where it hurts most or use the best female weapon there is: the scream.
Enough said here.
