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Fake Plastic Dreams

Posted by: lubnaaa | May 25, 2006 |

Currently Playing: Death Cab For Cutie-I Will Follow You Into The Dark.

Everything tells me that something is not right. Or maybe it’s something telling me that everything is wrong. Either way, things don’t look too good right now. There’s a rip in my sails.

2 weeks ago, Aizat asked me what I thought of the whole LAP experience.

I didn’t answer him.

Straight facts and stinging realisation struck me across the face. Hard.

People either come with dreams or without, so what do you make of people who have dreams but are unsure of them? Which pigeon-hole do you fit them in?

My life has always been about plans and aims. Whether I fulfil them is another matter, but I was always sure of what I wanted. I wanted to do Law at age 12, and decided that that would happen in IIUM because of its Islamic set-up and because the main medium of instruction was English (and Arabic). Between the ages of 14 and 15, the Palestinian intifada came to the fore which further reinforced my beliefs that I was choosing the right career path. Full support from my family (both nucleus and extended, because God forbid I don’t announce it to the Arab clan) plus growing passion and interest in human rights led me to charter a long-term map of what I would be, where and when, if Allah allowed it to be so.

By age 28, if Palestine is still occupied I’d help in the resistance movements from both the legal and field aspect. Insya Allah, if its already an established state, free from the repulsive clutches of the Zionists, I’d be focusing on rebuilding and restoration. Before the age of 35, Insya Allah I would already have enough to go for my Hajj with my parents.

Now though…

I’ve studied Law for a proper year, and it’s a lot of hard work. They say that it’s a glamorous course, but there’s nothing glamorous in working your butt off day in, day out, memorising rules and principles which would most probably become obsolete by the time you receive that first scroll. Hard work, I can handle. It’s the passion that I’m worried about; that burning fire is now this pile of dim embers I’m trying my best to stoke. I’ve spent these past weeks trying to rekindle that feeling of absolute fervour and zeal for something I once loved…but it feels like my whole perception of justice is now corroded. It isn’t what I thought it would be.

LAP opened my eyes to a world where procedures were the order of the day. Lawyers standing before judges with their craftily-made arguments, weaselling in and out, finding technical loopholes and defending criminals…the monotony and morality of it all got to me. I cannot work in that environment!

I had really wanted to become a human rights lawyer.

Now though…dare I say it? Dare I say that I now do not know anymore? Dare I say I’m not so sure of myself anymore?

These days, I’ve been giving it serious consideration. Just because I do relatively well in a course does not necessarily mean it was tailored for me. Yes, I know that each course has its patches here and there that don’t fit like a glove, but this a more than just a mismatched hem.

Sometimes I find myself wishing I had ignored the fact that I hated science and worked myself silly to become a medical doctor. It’s undeniably the most noble profession I can think of. Perchance, it may be all those episodes of House and Grey’s Anatomy that’s influenced me heavily, but I doubt it. War-ravaged and disaster-struck countries always seek volunteers with some medical background.

To compare the two vocations from an outsider’s POV, doctors are almost always more often then not, regarded as heroes because they save human lives quite literally, while lawyers only fare well as being the butt of many lawyer gags. It’s a common joke that all lawyers will go to Hell, and the idea of garnering respect as a lawyer is unheard of. I feel like I’m on my way to becoming part of the Dumb Blonde-type joke stigma.

But then again, I don’t know. Maybe this uncertainty is what all students go through? To be honest, I don’t think I’d stick with any profession if given a choice. Think Jane of all trades, Master of none. I suppose if I truly looked at my nature with complete honesty, I can never fully delve into only one field. I need variety, diversity, changes. To entirely commit to one thing would dissipate any interest I may have had.

I want to be a photo-journalist, a kindergarten teacher, a columnist, a lecturer, a writer, a pilot, an astronomer, an archaeologist, a historian. a bookstore-owner, a ranch owner (I kid you not), an actress, a forensic investigator, a social worker, a football player (this, being the most unrealistic), etc etc etc. ETCETERA. I want to be anything and everything I can be, under the sun.

I made a choice though. A decision. And that chartered map shows that I’m still smooth-sailing. So though I may feel like I’m chaining up my leg to an iron ball, the winds have been well, and rough seas have not torn this ship apart. I must have made the right choice, right? Right?

So. Full steam ahead?

Enough said here.

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you can embed songs into your blog now!!!

cool.. now I cant concentrate reading ur blog.. best lagu..

caught in the middle… why kan.. I regret taking arch.. i wanna write and travel. I wanna make money.. not sitting in an enclosed office…….designing!

I’ve been meaning to discuss this very topic on my blog as well but knowing me, it doesn’t look like it’s going to happen anytime soon.

Am feeling pretty much like you do really. Especially on the wanting to be a medic doc bit. Way too much Grey’s Anatomy, methinks :)

afiq, u would be a great as another ian wright :-) i’ve always wanted to be a paid traveller but i think i aint that sporting.
medic is a noble profession but its so hard. ive always thot of joining mercy but as a non qualified aider la. u have lots more time to choose ur career. u could alwiz change career. sometimes, what we plan, doesnt work out. im thinking that i may not work as a lawyer and maybe i’ll open a biz somewhere in the world. i thot of taking time off after graduating to work around the world but kalo nak tgk career wise, nak jd lawyer, i cant afford to take time off bc i’d be far behind. kena join the rat race terus.
i wanted to be a forensic expert dulu but i get freaked out bout restless souls so maybe not such a great idea. dont mind blood tho.
being an ambassador’s wife would be great eh faz? :-) senang je hidup but i’d get bored silly.

i’ll mail u something regarding this topic eh :)

uhuh.i have loads 2say on this topic. 1stly, on the word ‘obsolete’; i have loads to say about the malaysian education system. on this dilemma phase, i went thru it b4 i left matric. it’s either gonna pull u down, or it’s gonna motivate u even more. u decide that hun. (Rmmbr hw i was close to changng my course bcoz i never see myself as a ‘hafal’ing student?) haih..i’m just gonna mail u la..laytah!

Afq: Most times we find that what we want to do don’t really bring in as much money as the courses we chose to do now. At least Interest v Money is capable of being thought over. What about Many Interests v Money? The feeling that you can never reach the heights of any particular field because you just want to move to the next interest? =S

Faz: I want to read your take on this, and I’m glad I’m not the only one having doubts here. And just between you and me, when watching war movies (read:Band of Brothers), I’d usually be eyeing the medic because he amazes me the most. A healer and fighter, all in one. HOT. ;p

Najia: You put off forensic experts because of restless souls? Wow. Really? Why?

Aizat: Looking forward to it.=)

Ryhn: Yours too, girl.

Hey Lubs.

Wow, now I don’t feel so lonely no more…

And you’ve given me something else to write about on my blog…

I’ve been ambition-hopping all my life, searching my soul for that True Thing I Wanna Do In Life.

I see you’ve been ambition-hopping too. But Lubna, it all comes down to what you’re passionate about in the end.

Ask yourself, what are you really passionate about?

What is it you really want to do? Don’t think about the money you’ll be making with that Dream Job, don’t think about what other people expect you to be, don’t think about other people’s perception towards you.

What is it you REALLY want?

You’ve taken Law. Which is, I think, the wisest choice you made.
You know Law branches out to nearly every other category of careers, so you have the advantage of having such a broad choice of things you want to do.

But what you NEED to do is know what you want to do with your life.

You mentioned about the lawyers working their butts off.

I have this philosophy thingy, about when people do what they love, they won’t feel as if they’re doing a job. At the end of the day, they’ll feel satisfied, fulfilled. Tired, maybe, but at peace.

I think that’s the kind of thing I’m looking for. :)

my counsellor said that u have to be extremely strong willed kalo nak jd forensics expert, meaning that u can handle supernatural disturbings. i just can’t do that bc it freaks me out bc u don’t know what the other world is like. when ppl die bc of horrible accidents, i don’t think their soul goes off and that’s that. i think they hang about esp bc they have unfinishd biz. the job itself is disturbing itself, it’s much more grotesque than CSI

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